Attitude is Altitude

Amy, a fifty something woman recently married for the second time a man who lived outside of the country but only about two hours away. They saw each other exclusively on weekends. At the youthful age of 47 her husband Mark was diagnosed with prostate cancer and underwent the surgical removal of his prostate commonly known as a “nerve sparing” radical prostatectomy. During his surgery, Mark’s doctor accidentally “nicked” a vessel, which supplied blood to his penis.  As a result Mark deals with significant erectile dysfunction.

 Mark told Amy about his prostate cancer and erectile dysfunction on their second date. Amy said for her it was love at first sight and she was so attracted to Mark that she was willing to see the relationship through. After all, she said, as you know, there are many other things couples can do in terms of sexual pleasure and Mark is still able to orgasm.

 What Mark has is what is referred to as a “dry orgasm.”  A lay, person, may call this dry ejaculation, because a man can reach sexual climax but doesn’t release (ejaculate) semen from the penis — or releases very little semen.  Dry orgasm usually isn't a cause for concern unless a man wants to father a child.  In time, many men say a dry orgasm feels normal and it does not impede them from a satisfying sex life.

 Amy said that she and her husband had sought counseling for his erection difficulties and had tried a number of the available options like lifestyle modifications, a penis pump or vacuum, medications like Alprostadil which is a type of medicine that causes blood vessels to expand by increasing blood flow to the penis which helps facilitate an erection.  None of the popular PDE5 inhibitors like Viagra, Cialis, Levitra or Staxyn worked for Mark even though he was psychologically aroused, had a normal testosterone level and tried them five or six times as advised.

 Amy came to see me because she wanted to be sure there were no other treatment options available for Mark. He was a bit reluctant to talk about his erectile dysfunction as many men are. I suggested to Amy that Mark may want to look into the Elator which is a supportive device for the penis that may help with penetrative sex.  An Elator is a supportive device for penis that is made of medical grade silicone, is easy to apply in less than ten seconds and has a French Tickler. Amy liked the idea of this and thought she would mention it to Mark who was willing to try it because he so desperately missed the kind of intimacy that only penetrative sex offers since his surgery. Amy and Mark used the Elator and were surprised and delighted as to how much it enhanced their relationship. 

 Erectile dysfunction does not mean the end to a satisfying intimate relationship. It just means you engage in intimate relations a bit differently, but you do it your way. There are many pleasurable ways to be intimate with men who have erectile dysfunction. Attitude is altitude! With the right attitude and possibly devices a man with Erectile Dysfunction can rise to the occasion and get back to the bedroom more and more.

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